Why Community + Accountability = The Secret Sauce to Your Next Level Up

[00:00:03] [SPEAKER_01]: Welcome to Make One Day Happen, the podcast that makes Woo Woo relatable for busy founders,

[00:00:11] [SPEAKER_01]: leaders, executives and high performers who give a fuck about prioritizing themselves in their

[00:00:15] [SPEAKER_01]: personal and professional development. I'm your host, Shenna Jean, and on this show we'll cover

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[00:01:01] [SPEAKER_01]: Hi friend, welcome back to the Make One Day Happen podcast. I'm your host,

[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_01]: Shenna Jean and today y'all got me for a solo episode about the thing that has been the most

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_01]: impactful in my personal and leadership development journey. But first, I'm going to tell

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_01]: you a story about a stingray and how that motherfucker really cemented this idea for me.

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_01]: So I recently went to visit my mom for the weekend who lives in Long Beach, California,

[00:01:26] [SPEAKER_01]: LBC and we had a really lovely weekend together. It was just the two of us. Honestly, it was so

[00:01:31] [SPEAKER_01]: dreamy and included so many of my favorite things. Arts walking around town and doing some beach

[00:01:36] [SPEAKER_01]: walks. We went and visited this really dope bookstore called The Last Bookstore. We went

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_01]: and saw a Frank Lloyd Wright house tour. We ate so many yummy meals. We did a yin yoga and

[00:01:46] [SPEAKER_01]: sound bath class like truly, mwah! It was a top notch trip. And on the last day,

[00:01:51] [SPEAKER_01]: we decided to head down to the beach, take some chairs and some books and just chill out.

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_01]: So as we sat on the beach talking about our mutual preference for pools over beaches,

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_01]: don't come at us y'all. We have our reasons. This seagull flew overhead and pooped on us both

[00:02:05] [SPEAKER_01]: at the same time. Like drilled her on the left arm, me on the right leg and we were shook.

[00:02:11] [SPEAKER_01]: We were laughing and wiping bird poop off ourselves, reminding ourselves that like

[00:02:15] [SPEAKER_01]: this is technically a good sign, right? Even though nobody likes being pooped on by a bird.

[00:02:20] [SPEAKER_01]: However, many cultures say that it is good luck. So I decided to go out for a quick dip.

[00:02:26] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm making my way out to sea and y'all, I am in there for no more than one minute,

[00:02:31] [SPEAKER_01]: maybe a minute and a half before something slices my foot. It was like this like quick zap. And

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_01]: honestly, it scared me more than it hurt me at first. I pulled my foot out of the waters

[00:02:40] [SPEAKER_01]: trying to see what happened couldn't see anything. Then it hit me. I was like,

[00:02:44] [SPEAKER_01]: oh shit, did I just get stung by a jellyfish? I need to get out of here.

[00:02:47] [SPEAKER_01]: So I'm like splashing my way back to shore, inspect my foot once again, once I'm on land.

[00:02:53] [SPEAKER_01]: And I don't see anything. I start walking back towards the chairs. As I'm walking,

[00:02:58] [SPEAKER_01]: I look down and I start to see blood starting to spread. And you know that feeling like

[00:03:02] [SPEAKER_01]: when as soon as you see the blood like then the pain starts, that's exactly what happened.

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_01]: My knees kind of go weak. I'm like getting woozy. I start like, I probably look like

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_01]: Snoop Dogg walking down the beach trying to limp, trying to not get my foot in the sand,

[00:03:16] [SPEAKER_01]: which is literally impossible because I'm walking barefoot through the sand.

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_01]: And as I'm walking up to my mom, she's like, what's wrong with you? And I am just like,

[00:03:24] [SPEAKER_01]: bewildered. I'm like, I think I just got stung by something. So I'm breathing so hard that

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm pouring water trying to get the sand off. She's frantically googling. It's like,

[00:03:33] [SPEAKER_01]: what do we do? Do we pee on it? Was this a jellyfish? Is this a stingray? Do we need

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_01]: to get out of the sun? Can you walk? Do we need to go to the art? Like a bajillion

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_01]: questions. And literally the only thing holding me together in the moment was my breath, like deep

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_01]: belly breaths, long exhales through the mouth was what I was using to really hold me down because

[00:03:55] [SPEAKER_01]: the pain was blinding. It was making it so hard to think and strategize that I was honestly just

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_01]: like frozen there. Luckily, my mom was like mobilizing. She was like, okay, let's wrap

[00:04:05] [SPEAKER_01]: up this foot in your coverup. You're going to walk to the edge of where I can come go,

[00:04:11] [SPEAKER_01]: I'll go get the car, pick you up so you don't have to walk the whole way home.

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_01]: And we start getting into motion. We decided to stop at the grocery store

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_01]: so she can run in for some first aid supplies, dinner because our plan to walk to dinner was

[00:04:24] [SPEAKER_01]: now officially out the window. And I'm sitting there in the car and I'm watching myself in

[00:04:28] [SPEAKER_01]: pain. And it was really fascinating, like being able to move out of like the person having

[00:04:34] [SPEAKER_01]: the experience and moving into a space of watching myself have the experience. And

[00:04:39] [SPEAKER_01]: the pain was crazy. It was like this swell that would happen. It would start to swell at the

[00:04:45] [SPEAKER_01]: point of the sting and start to spread and intensify and come in these rolling waves. If

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_01]: you're a female, you know what I mean by menstrual cramps and how those just can roll over and

[00:04:57] [SPEAKER_01]: like the intensity swells and then it dissipates and you have a little bit of a break.

[00:05:01] [SPEAKER_01]: That's what was happening. And I'm watching myself suffer through this in silence. It was

[00:05:05] [SPEAKER_01]: really interesting. And I was like, dang she know, like you're in a closed car. Like, you know

[00:05:09] [SPEAKER_01]: how helpful it's like, I just I was watching myself be like, oh, I want to scream right now.

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_01]: And it's like, why don't you like you're in a car yourself? Like fucking scream, you know,

[00:05:19] [SPEAKER_01]: that's gonna help. Like, it is going to help you dissipate the pain sound is going to

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_01]: transmute the emotion. Like so I literally start screaming at the top of my lungs. I'm

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_01]: laughing. I'm letting the sound follow the wave of the pain. And I'm giving into the experience,

[00:05:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm surrendering trying to make my scream hurt more than the sting y'all because it was so,

[00:05:40] [SPEAKER_01]: so intense. I learned a couple of things. One that regardless of if it's a jellyfish or a

[00:05:46] [SPEAKER_01]: stingray, the best thing that you can do is to submerge the affected part into hot water

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_01]: ASAP, which is probably why people like the whole peeing on a jellyfish thing thing is out

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_01]: there. Because the hot water for whatever reason, it deactivates the venom and most importantly,

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_01]: it like stops the pain immediately. Very counterintuitive as I was crawling into that bathtub.

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_01]: However, it was wild how quickly the pain just dissipated as soon as I got into the bathtub.

[00:06:12] [SPEAKER_01]: And quickly it came back as soon as I got out of the bathtub. The rest of the afternoon was

[00:06:17] [SPEAKER_01]: spent with my mom mothering me nurturing my wounds. She was witnessing me in my pain

[00:06:22] [SPEAKER_01]: in my process and just truly supporting me through it. And y'all, that was the most beautiful gift of

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_01]: service to our relationship during a weekend when we are turning a corner in our relationship.

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_01]: So you might be thinking like, okay, cool story, Sheena. Well, what does this have to do with

[00:06:38] [SPEAKER_01]: me and my journey though? That's a great question. I'm glad you asked. So I personally

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_01]: have a belief that everyone and everything is here to teach you something if you're open to

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_01]: learning a lesson. It's a core fundamental belief that I have about the way the world operates and

[00:06:54] [SPEAKER_01]: that includes with animals, especially animals that you have a close encounter with. I wrote a

[00:06:59] [SPEAKER_01]: whole article for a magazine once about the crab and the snake that I found on a path in Tulum.

[00:07:04] [SPEAKER_01]: So you better believe that I'm trying to figure out now, is this a jellyfish? Was it a stingray?

[00:07:09] [SPEAKER_01]: Not for the story's sake so much before the animal spirit medicine sake, right? There are

[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_01]: many indigenous cultures from all over the world that believe that animals carry messages for us.

[00:07:19] [SPEAKER_01]: And thanks to the internet, you can find that info pretty quickly nowadays. So after talking to

[00:07:24] [SPEAKER_01]: some neighbors that night at the fireworks show a bit more googling, I learned that jellyfish

[00:07:28] [SPEAKER_01]: injuries don't bleed stingrays do. And I decided that the ultimate like kind of decided

[00:07:33] [SPEAKER_01]: factor on was this a jellyfish? Was this a stingray is that I would get home the next

[00:07:36] [SPEAKER_01]: morning. I would consult my animal spirit guidebook, this badly when I got home and

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_01]: see which message felt more resonate and move accordingly from there. Y'all, this is where

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_01]: shit starts to get wild. You cannot make this up. I get home, consult my little book and there's no

[00:07:51] [SPEAKER_01]: jellyfish in this book. It's a stingray. So stingray is what I have because I couldn't see it

[00:07:58] [SPEAKER_01]: because I don't know if you've been to Long Beach. That water is not the clearest of water.

[00:08:03] [SPEAKER_01]: But so stingray is what we're going with. And RIP Steve Irwin, so many people have

[00:08:08] [SPEAKER_01]: told me like that's how Steve Irwin died is a stingray. I was like, holy shit.

[00:08:12] [SPEAKER_01]: Luckily, I didn't have the same experience in fate as he did. But I want to read you what

[00:08:17] [SPEAKER_01]: this book says about the stingray. So A, if you're maybe newer to the idea of like animal

[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_01]: messages, you can have an understanding of how the cell ties in. All right. So stingray,

[00:08:26] [SPEAKER_01]: developing confidence sense of self or spine. The stingray card represents a pivotal point

[00:08:32] [SPEAKER_01]: in personal growth. The moment has come when the stingray must decide between the old,

[00:08:37] [SPEAKER_01]: the easy, the comfortable and familiar and the new, the challenging, uncomfortable and unfamiliar.

[00:08:43] [SPEAKER_01]: Pressure from family and friends makes the decision even more complicated. No matter what

[00:08:48] [SPEAKER_01]: choice is made now, it's inevitable that this dilemma will surface again and again as the

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_01]: force of Dharma, which is a life's purpose, is growing within the stingray is too strong to

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_01]: ignore. So when this is in balance, it's eager and it wants to grow. When it's out of balance,

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_01]: it blames other others and it quits. And to bring it into balance, it has to move through

[00:09:08] [SPEAKER_01]: the discomfort. Wild. This is wild because in that moment when I got stung by that stingray,

[00:09:17] [SPEAKER_01]: I was absolutely at a pivotal moment of my personal growth. Now I've been in a season of

[00:09:23] [SPEAKER_01]: wrestling down and releasing some old ways of being when it comes to my feminine energy,

[00:09:28] [SPEAKER_01]: my leadership and how I experience and hold toxic shame in my body. And in that weekend,

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_01]: I was choosing between old ways of being in relationship with my mom and new ways of being

[00:09:39] [SPEAKER_01]: in relationship with her. Going out for that visit in the first place was a completely new

[00:09:43] [SPEAKER_01]: way of being for me. What's even more wild is that I was stung on my left foot and through

[00:09:49] [SPEAKER_01]: the lens of metaphysics, the left side is our feminine side. Our foot represents moving

[00:09:54] [SPEAKER_01]: forward in our future. In two years ago, I had my grandma Jean, my mom's mom,

[00:09:58] [SPEAKER_01]: energetically placed in my left foot during a shamanic massage. Send me a DM if you want to

[00:10:04] [SPEAKER_01]: know more about that. So when I break this down, when I step back and when I really look at this,

[00:10:11] [SPEAKER_01]: is it a coincidence that I got stung by an animal that represents a pivotal point

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_01]: and personal growth on the body part associated with the future of my feminine energy and

[00:10:20] [SPEAKER_01]: corrected connected to my grandmother with my mom is the only person there to support me

[00:10:25] [SPEAKER_01]: and moving through that experience on the weekend that we're resetting our relationship.

[00:10:30] [SPEAKER_01]: I think not. I think not. So here's the thing, y'all, like you cannot grow, change, level up,

[00:10:39] [SPEAKER_01]: heal, step into a new version of yourself without others getting involved. Period. Community is

[00:10:46] [SPEAKER_01]: always going to be the thing that allows you to step into that next version of yourself.

[00:10:52] [SPEAKER_01]: It's not possible to do it on your own. Believe me, I've tried and tried and tried and just take

[00:10:57] [SPEAKER_01]: my word for it now. I have spent so many seasons y'all in isolation thinking I had to figure

[00:11:01] [SPEAKER_01]: shit out on my own stuck in a shame spiral of perfection afraid to let others into the messy

[00:11:06] [SPEAKER_01]: or more painful parts of my life. I'm literally just coming out of one of those seasons.

[00:11:10] [SPEAKER_01]: Okay. And it's that mindset of thinking if I just read this book, it'll have this answer.

[00:11:15] [SPEAKER_01]: If I just do this little course in my home, we'll figure it out. Or if I just journal about

[00:11:19] [SPEAKER_01]: this a few more times, I'll understand it better. And yes, those are beautiful things to do and

[00:11:24] [SPEAKER_01]: it won't ever move the needle like being in community. Well,

[00:11:28] [SPEAKER_01]: we need other people to witness us in our process and our pain and our suffering in

[00:11:33] [SPEAKER_01]: order to transmute that energy. The longer we try to do it alone, the longer it takes,

[00:11:38] [SPEAKER_01]: the more vulnerability we try to avoid the more shame we experience.

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_01]: So when you allow others to witness your transformation, a few things are going to

[00:11:47] [SPEAKER_01]: happen. First off, you're going to be able to be supported in it. And for me, that's

[00:11:53] [SPEAKER_01]: practicing receivership. I don't know about y'all. I have historically had a very hard time

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_01]: receiving giving not a problem. I've actually been very conditioned to give give give give

[00:12:03] [SPEAKER_01]: give give give give give and I think a lot of women in our society today have that

[00:12:08] [SPEAKER_01]: same conditioning. We're supposed to be the givers, right? When that actually could not

[00:12:12] [SPEAKER_01]: be further from the truth. We are the receivers. We are the receivers, even like down to anatomically,

[00:12:17] [SPEAKER_01]: we are the receivers, not the givers. All right. And so being able to practice receiving in a

[00:12:23] [SPEAKER_01]: space that can be uncomfortable for me to receive help, it can be uncomfortable for me to be

[00:12:28] [SPEAKER_01]: nurtured and provided and cared for in that way. That's what the stingray situation was

[00:12:34] [SPEAKER_01]: opened up for me to step into, right? Another thing that happens when you allow someone else

[00:12:39] [SPEAKER_01]: to be a part of your transformation and witness you in it, they get inspired for their own journey.

[00:12:44] [SPEAKER_01]: They see that it's possible for them. Mirror neurons are a real thing. When we see that

[00:12:50] [SPEAKER_01]: someone else can overcome a challenging relationship or heal a wound that they

[00:12:56] [SPEAKER_01]: thought they would never get past or get the job that everyone said was impossible for them

[00:13:01] [SPEAKER_01]: to get. Like that expands our neural pathways. We're able to see that this is actually possible

[00:13:07] [SPEAKER_01]: and we recognize that, oh, if they can do it, I can do it too. So there is power in doing our

[00:13:13] [SPEAKER_01]: healing work together. Such big power. The third thing that happens when you are allowing

[00:13:20] [SPEAKER_01]: someone else to witness your transformation is they are able to celebrate you and hold

[00:13:24] [SPEAKER_01]: you accountable for that new way of being, which is so beautiful. We need more celebration

[00:13:29] [SPEAKER_01]: energy. Y'all, we need more people hyping us up, cheering us on and congratulating us,

[00:13:35] [SPEAKER_01]: bringing that vibe of celebration into our lives when we are able to climb over that mountain.

[00:13:40] [SPEAKER_01]: It's just not as fun to climb over the mountain and get up there and be all by yourself.

[00:13:45] [SPEAKER_01]: It's just not right? Like climbing up. There was this time in Thailand actually,

[00:13:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Ryleigh, there's this like it's a climbing community, but there's this

[00:13:54] [SPEAKER_01]: cenote that you can actually climb down into. And a cenote is like a body of water that's

[00:13:59] [SPEAKER_01]: underground basically. And there's these ropes and climbing down was the easy part. Climbing

[00:14:06] [SPEAKER_01]: back up, I literally thought I was not going to make it. I was in this space where my partner

[00:14:11] [SPEAKER_01]: at the time was down below me trying to cheer me on, trying to give me some pointers on how

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_01]: to best get up. I was there telling myself, I don't have the upper body strength to do

[00:14:21] [SPEAKER_01]: this. How am I going to figure this out? I'm like in this moment of stress watching so many

[00:14:24] [SPEAKER_01]: like beliefs come through and like not having full faith and trust in myself. And then I hear

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_01]: above me, all of these guys starting to like cheer me on. It's like this, you've got this,

[00:14:38] [SPEAKER_01]: you can do it. Come on. We believe in you. We're right here. And that boost,

[00:14:43] [SPEAKER_01]: that switch of the energy helped me dig deeper and ignore the bullshit I was telling myself.

[00:14:48] [SPEAKER_01]: I start to pull myself up, climbing on the rocks. I pull myself over and there's like a whole team of

[00:14:56] [SPEAKER_01]: Canadian hockey players standing there cheering me on. You're like, yes, you did it. It was

[00:15:02] [SPEAKER_01]: the most beautiful thing in the whole wide world. We are social beings, y'all. We need each other

[00:15:09] [SPEAKER_01]: to accomplish things in life. And so when we actually open ourselves up to that experience,

[00:15:14] [SPEAKER_01]: we get to be a whole new person with the support of others. There's this accountability that comes

[00:15:19] [SPEAKER_01]: into play when we're in community and you know, accountability is a weird fucking word. At least

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_01]: it has been for me. It's been a word that's carried a lot of ick with it. It feels like

[00:15:31] [SPEAKER_01]: like when I really feel into what the energetics of accountability have been for me,

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_01]: it's closely associated with performance management and like my whole corporate life. And it's

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_01]: this obligation and you have to do this to someone. It's like this holding someone to the word of

[00:15:47] [SPEAKER_01]: doing something they said they would do, even if maybe they don't actually want to do it, is how

[00:15:52] [SPEAKER_01]: some of my old brain has tangled it up. So technically that's one way you can look at it.

[00:15:58] [SPEAKER_01]: We always get to choose our perspective of how we define words. And energetically though,

[00:16:01] [SPEAKER_01]: it hasn't always sat right with me. And so I've been working on energetically redefining

[00:16:06] [SPEAKER_01]: the word accountability. And my friend Xavier over at the restorative justice institute of Oklahoma

[00:16:12] [SPEAKER_01]: shared a definition recently that I absolutely love and he says accountability is helping to hold

[00:16:18] [SPEAKER_01]: someone in the vision of who they want to be. So dope. So dope. I love helping people hold

[00:16:27] [SPEAKER_01]: the vision of who they want to be because sometimes it's really fucking hard to see that

[00:16:30] [SPEAKER_01]: for ourselves, just like I was climbing over that rock in Ryleigh, right? Or imagining

[00:16:36] [SPEAKER_01]: that I was going to survive a stingray. Like sometimes we have to like have people help us

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_01]: hold the vision of where we're going and remind us that it is possible for us that we can do this

[00:16:45] [SPEAKER_01]: and to cheer us on and to celebrate us in it. Accountability is crucial in the journey to

[00:16:52] [SPEAKER_01]: becoming a new version of yourself. I actually went and pulled up a, let me go look at my notes

[00:16:58] [SPEAKER_01]: here because I pulled up this recent study on accountability that was done by the Association

[00:17:02] [SPEAKER_01]: for Talent Development and it's mind boggling. Mind boggling, y'all. The researchers found that

[00:17:07] [SPEAKER_01]: individuals have the following probabilities of completing a goal by taking these actions. So

[00:17:12] [SPEAKER_01]: if you have an idea or a goal, you're 10% likely to complete it. If you consciously decide that

[00:17:17] [SPEAKER_01]: you will do it, then you are 25% likely that you'll complete it. If you decide when you'll

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_01]: do it, you jump up to 40% likelihood of completing it. When you start to plan it out and put

[00:17:27] [SPEAKER_01]: some like action behind it, then you get to that 50% mark. You jump to 65% likelihood of

[00:17:33] [SPEAKER_01]: completing your goal when you commit to someone that you will do it. Here's the astounding part.

[00:17:38] [SPEAKER_01]: If you have a specific accountability appointment with someone you've committed to,

[00:17:42] [SPEAKER_01]: it jumps to 95% y'all and 95% likelihood that you will get your shit done if you have

[00:17:50] [SPEAKER_01]: an accountability buddy. That's insane. Get you an accountability buddy, right?

[00:17:56] [SPEAKER_01]: I've talked before on the podcast about different levels of development and leadership,

[00:18:00] [SPEAKER_01]: and I'm going to run it back real quick to put a bow on this whole thing. Level one or self is

[00:18:05] [SPEAKER_01]: related to all the things we do in solitude to prepare ourselves for the journey of growth

[00:18:09] [SPEAKER_01]: in our leadership. I believe everyone's a leader, whether your job title says that or not,

[00:18:14] [SPEAKER_01]: we are all leaders in this world. When we're in this level one, it's the books,

[00:18:19] [SPEAKER_01]: it's the podcasts, it's the meditation and journaling, it's the things that we do

[00:18:22] [SPEAKER_01]: alone to process, to unlearn, to remember who we really are and untangle that from the lies of our

[00:18:27] [SPEAKER_01]: subconscious. And that's a really important part of the journey. It's where we all start. Level two

[00:18:33] [SPEAKER_01]: is when we bring others into the fold with us. It's when we get them involved and the

[00:18:38] [SPEAKER_01]: transformation can really truly begin. We open ourselves up to being in community,

[00:18:42] [SPEAKER_01]: to vulnerability, to surrendering to the idea that everyone is our mirror and has something

[00:18:46] [SPEAKER_01]: to teach us. Level three is when we bring in accountability. That's the big boy. It's

[00:18:51] [SPEAKER_01]: 95% y'all. And it's accountability that we've never had before because we've never been this person

[00:18:57] [SPEAKER_01]: before. So whether you're doing that with a coach, a therapist, a mentor, a close friend who's

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_01]: committed to helping you, it's got to be someone who's willing to hold the vision of you with love

[00:19:06] [SPEAKER_01]: and responsibility for helping get you there. So I'm so curious like where are you at right

[00:19:10] [SPEAKER_01]: now in your journey? Are you level one? Are you level two? Are you level three?

[00:19:15] [SPEAKER_01]: Where can you add some community or accountability into your world to help

[00:19:19] [SPEAKER_01]: you get to that next level? Who is helping you hold that vision for yourself of who you want to be?

[00:19:25] [SPEAKER_01]: What lessons are available to you by simply looking at the people and interactions around

[00:19:31] [SPEAKER_01]: you differently? One of the biggest reframes that I help my clients with is this is not

[00:19:37] [SPEAKER_01]: happening to you. This is happening for you. I could very easily have said, oh,

[00:19:42] [SPEAKER_01]: shit, y'all, I got stung by a stingray. Oh, this should happen to me this weekend.

[00:19:46] [SPEAKER_01]: I got stung by a stingray. No, I've been around for far too long and I've been in this journey

[00:19:51] [SPEAKER_01]: for too many years now to know that there's so much more available to me when I sit back

[00:19:58] [SPEAKER_01]: and I say, why is this happening for me? How can I get more curious? What was this stingray

[00:20:02] [SPEAKER_01]: trying to communicate to me? What in the grand scheme if I pull back and look at what's happening

[00:20:06] [SPEAKER_01]: in my life, how is this at play? And I had gotten some deep medicine from that y'all.

[00:20:12] [SPEAKER_01]: So deep medicine and really a spiritual initiation of sorts that I can draw from. This is one of the

[00:20:19] [SPEAKER_01]: most pivotal experiences of my life to date because I was willing to think of this through

[00:20:24] [SPEAKER_01]: the lens of how is this happening for me? Not how is why is this happening to me, right?

[00:20:31] [SPEAKER_01]: So that stingray medicine also very much was speaking to my business. I have been in

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_01]: a very big pivotal point of personal growth in my business and really narrowing down who I'm for,

[00:20:43] [SPEAKER_01]: what it is that I offer. My main products and revenue streams in my business have traditionally

[00:20:47] [SPEAKER_01]: been one-to-one coaching and contracts with companies that I could facilitate live experiences

[00:20:54] [SPEAKER_01]: that energetically shift a team or group of humans. And this is where I'm going to be

[00:20:59] [SPEAKER_01]: truthful and vulnerable y'all. I've had some real subconscious blocks and figuring out how

[00:21:05] [SPEAKER_01]: to offer community online and to host my own experiences because I'm an offline community

[00:21:11] [SPEAKER_01]: girly that's obsessed with collaboration. So figuring out how to do online solo experiences has

[00:21:18] [SPEAKER_01]: been a huge edge. Community is deeply embedded in my bloodline, in my lineage. The grandmother

[00:21:27] [SPEAKER_01]: that was in my left foot was a pastor's wife. My great-great-grandfather founded a

[00:21:33] [SPEAKER_01]: church right here in Oklahoma. My favorite parts of my career when I look back have always been

[00:21:38] [SPEAKER_01]: centered around the communities I've helped create, whether that was the lemon and veil

[00:21:42] [SPEAKER_01]: or the Bibie social club and Aspen. One of my favorites yet was Archipelago, the wellness-based

[00:21:48] [SPEAKER_01]: social club in Phoenix, Arizona. Like I love gathering people in real life with the intention

[00:21:55] [SPEAKER_01]: of making an impact on their journey with connecting them deeper to themselves and to

[00:22:00] [SPEAKER_01]: others, to helping them find more purpose and health and happiness. This is something that

[00:22:04] [SPEAKER_01]: my soul is here to do y'all and figuring out how to translate that online has been so challenging.

[00:22:14] [SPEAKER_01]: I've got these little visibility wounds that I've been working through and they're all deeply

[00:22:19] [SPEAKER_01]: connected to my feminine energy and my leadership trauma, my community trauma and a toxic shame

[00:22:25] [SPEAKER_01]: patterns that I've been healing. Actually, Keyleth so clear, I have healed that. Don't get stuck,

[00:22:31] [SPEAKER_01]: get stuck in the ink y'all. Don't get stuck in the ink. We can get stuck in our heel ink.

[00:22:37] [SPEAKER_01]: Just choose to be over it. Sometimes we just need to choose to move past it and not in a gaslighty

[00:22:41] [SPEAKER_01]: like spiritual bypassing way from a recognizing that we're choosing language that's keeping us

[00:22:46] [SPEAKER_01]: stuck in it. And I can absolutely say that I have really been able to see where I'm choosing

[00:22:52] [SPEAKER_01]: language that has been keeping me stuck in my shit and I'm done. I'm over it. So yeah,

[00:23:01] [SPEAKER_01]: showing up online is just for whatever reason can feel really fucking scary despite the fact that

[00:23:07] [SPEAKER_01]: I have a podcast and zero qualms about showing up and saying these exact same things in real life.

[00:23:13] [SPEAKER_01]: So a big part of this spiritual stingray initiation for me has been to choose to lean

[00:23:19] [SPEAKER_01]: into this discomfort of showing up online to learn how to embrace the journey of telling my story

[00:23:24] [SPEAKER_01]: electronically, to accept the challenge of learning to translate my community building skills in

[00:23:30] [SPEAKER_01]: the online space and trusting that it will all work out divinely. And like as I sit here and

[00:23:37] [SPEAKER_01]: just share and listen to like all of this, I giggle at what a sense of humor that the universe,

[00:23:44] [SPEAKER_01]: God, source, whatever you want to call it has how divinely orchestrated this all is.

[00:23:50] [SPEAKER_01]: Dang, it's so beautiful y'all like who would have thought a stingray could teach me so freaking

[00:23:56] [SPEAKER_01]: much? Now I got to do the next part, which is the other side of the medicine. It's the new

[00:24:03] [SPEAKER_01]: way of showing up right the new way of showing up online that feels challenging. It feels unfamiliar,

[00:24:08] [SPEAKER_01]: a little uncomfortable, but I'm gonna do it anyways. So I've got some ideas for us to get into

[00:24:14] [SPEAKER_01]: community together, my friends, because like I said, I truly love supporting folks in their journey

[00:24:21] [SPEAKER_01]: in community and I just know the deep power that being in community holds. So if you've

[00:24:28] [SPEAKER_01]: been feeling stuck or plateaued in your personal development or your leadership journey,

[00:24:32] [SPEAKER_01]: if you feel like you're spinning your wheels on level one trying to figure this

[00:24:35] [SPEAKER_01]: shit out by yourself, like I feel you, I am you and I got some invitations on how we can support

[00:24:40] [SPEAKER_01]: each other. Okay. So the first invitation, I've opened the doors to the mod squad. Yep,

[00:24:49] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm calling it the mod squad, MODH make one day happen. It's an online group coaching

[00:24:54] [SPEAKER_01]: cohort that provides both community and accountability in a very simple format using the

[00:25:01] [SPEAKER_01]: MODH method calling it the intergame because it helps you learn how to work on your intergame,

[00:25:07] [SPEAKER_01]: not your outer game. We're going to teach you how to regulate your nervous system,

[00:25:10] [SPEAKER_01]: how to improve your energy hygiene, how to rewire shitty thoughts that are getting in the way and

[00:25:14] [SPEAKER_01]: get super crystal fucking clear on your vision and values for the next chapter.

[00:25:18] [SPEAKER_01]: We'll be really leaning into sound frequency and visualization in order to unlock that

[00:25:22] [SPEAKER_01]: next level of your performance and recovery and it's going to be a vibe, a pinky swear.

[00:25:28] [SPEAKER_01]: It's an open enrollment group. So that means there's not a specific start date. You're not

[00:25:32] [SPEAKER_01]: going to hear me being like, this is the last chance to do this blah, blah, blah. It's just

[00:25:37] [SPEAKER_01]: the date that you decide that you're ready to lean the fucking and level up. So you pick,

[00:25:42] [SPEAKER_01]: right? Like when are you ready to actually lean in and do this work? When are you ready to be

[00:25:46] [SPEAKER_01]: held in community? Okay, the content is designed as a three month program. However, it's

[00:25:52] [SPEAKER_01]: self-paced. So you get to go as fast or slow as you desire. However, there are only 14 spots at a

[00:25:58] [SPEAKER_01]: time. So if we're full, then you'll be put on a wait list and notified as soon as the spot opens up.

[00:26:02] [SPEAKER_01]: Five spots have already been claimed at the time of recording this. And I'm just about to start

[00:26:07] [SPEAKER_01]: talking about this publicly. So I trust that these are going to go quick and that there will be a

[00:26:12] [SPEAKER_01]: spot with your name on it when the time is perfectly right. So what are you going to get?

[00:26:16] [SPEAKER_01]: Great question. You'll get access to a one on one clarity call with me.

[00:26:19] [SPEAKER_01]: We'll do that to kick off your cohort experience. Then you'll be in weekly group coaching with an

[00:26:25] [SPEAKER_01]: incredible community of humans that are on the same journey in their own level up and in different

[00:26:31] [SPEAKER_01]: areas of life, backgrounds, experiences. It's a kaleidoscope of incredible community that you

[00:26:38] [SPEAKER_01]: didn't know you needed. Honestly, it'll be a monthly workshop. You get access to all of

[00:26:42] [SPEAKER_01]: the content on the Make One Day Happen app. You're going to get a Make One Day Happen swag

[00:26:47] [SPEAKER_01]: bag that you get when you complete the coursework. And there's going to be monthly challenges and

[00:26:51] [SPEAKER_01]: giveaways for our cohort members to keep you accountable and on track. The best part, I really

[00:26:57] [SPEAKER_01]: love the payment options, right? So you're going to get a bonus month of coaching if you pay in full.

[00:27:01] [SPEAKER_01]: There's also a weekly payment plan. So if you're on the fence, if you're not sure if coaching

[00:27:06] [SPEAKER_01]: is for you, if I'm the one that's right for you, you can jump in, you can try it out.

[00:27:09] [SPEAKER_01]: This allows you to dive in, test the waters, see if it's the right fit and the right

[00:27:13] [SPEAKER_01]: crew for you. If not, no harm, no foul. You can quit at any time. I only want people in this cohort

[00:27:19] [SPEAKER_01]: who are all in on themselves. And if not, that's cool. It makes space for someone else who is.

[00:27:25] [SPEAKER_01]: There are also going to be two scholarship spots available so that this work is truly

[00:27:29] [SPEAKER_01]: accessible for anyone who's ready for it. So Lab Squad is here and I'm stoked for this new way

[00:27:37] [SPEAKER_01]: of being in community online together and trust that y'all will continue just to hear more

[00:27:41] [SPEAKER_01]: and more about it and listen, listen for when the time is ready for you if it ever is.

[00:27:47] [SPEAKER_01]: Second invitation, it's going to be an immersive retreat in Mexico, baby. So one of the most

[00:27:53] [SPEAKER_01]: impactful trips of my life was to Tulum, that same one where I saw the crab and the snake on

[00:27:58] [SPEAKER_01]: the same path together. All three of us were running into each other, right? That happened

[00:28:02] [SPEAKER_01]: in July of 2020. I had just blown up my life but I needed to go sit down with myself and

[00:28:07] [SPEAKER_01]: really clear out some noise so I could listen deeply inwardly for what was next. This was not

[00:28:12] [SPEAKER_01]: your typical Tulum trip and this one is not going to be either. I'm taking a group of 10 high

[00:28:17] [SPEAKER_01]: performers to this beautiful eco luxury jungle lodge sanctuary. It's right outside of Tulum,

[00:28:23] [SPEAKER_01]: so we're going to skip the Tulum party scene while soaking up the energy of the

[00:28:27] [SPEAKER_01]: energy vortex in Tulum. We're going to go inwards for an unplugged energy hygiene

[00:28:32] [SPEAKER_01]: retreat. Yep, that's right unplugged meaning no devices allowing you to connect with yourself,

[00:28:37] [SPEAKER_01]: community and nature in a way that you've probably never done before or at least not since you were

[00:28:42] [SPEAKER_01]: like five, right? We're going to be learning alongside local wisdom keepers about my

[00:28:47] [SPEAKER_01]: traditions like cacao ceremonies. We're going to experience it to mezcal which is a sweat lodge

[00:28:51] [SPEAKER_01]: ceremony. We're going to do some coal plunging in the famous cenotes and there will be of

[00:28:57] [SPEAKER_01]: course some signature make when they happen sound journey experiences alongside some workshops

[00:29:01] [SPEAKER_01]: to help you kick 2025 off intentional as book. If you've been around for a while, you know I love

[00:29:07] [SPEAKER_01]: me some intention setting workshops at the top of the year and this one's going to be an intention

[00:29:10] [SPEAKER_01]: setting retreat on steroids. It's going down January 27th through the 31st of 2025 and there

[00:29:17] [SPEAKER_01]: are only 10 spots available. There are first five people who book before September 30th will get

[00:29:22] [SPEAKER_01]: an early bird discount of $500 off and in case you're wondering there will be no beach time

[00:29:28] [SPEAKER_01]: at this retreat. So there is zero chance that you get stung by a stingray. How great is that?

[00:29:34] [SPEAKER_01]: There will be incredible pools at the eco sanctuary and cenotes. So water will absolutely

[00:29:39] [SPEAKER_01]: be a part of this experience and pools and cenotes are my bye, be all they are so much better no

[00:29:45] [SPEAKER_01]: sand or wildlife you got to worry about. So there are so many ways that you can get in

[00:29:50] [SPEAKER_01]: community and these are just two of the ones that I am putting out into the world. It would

[00:29:55] [SPEAKER_01]: be an honor to support you with these invitations. So consider them listen deeply to your body,

[00:30:01] [SPEAKER_01]: listen journal reflect on if this feels right. If you have any questions at all please reach out.

[00:30:06] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm happy to jump on a clarity call and talk through some of these options see what's best

[00:30:10] [SPEAKER_01]: for you and if it's the right fit. And if not I love you just the same maybe consider

[00:30:14] [SPEAKER_01]: sharing these opportunities with someone in your world who could be a good regardless.

[00:30:19] [SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna stay outside creating spaces and places for people to get together and connect

[00:30:24] [SPEAKER_01]: and witness each other on their way to becoming their next version of self and I hope that our

[00:30:29] [SPEAKER_01]: paths cross and I get to see you along the way. Until next time my friends I am sending you so

[00:30:34] [SPEAKER_01]: much love. Bye! Thank you so much for tuning into another episode of the make one day happen

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